Don’t Let Your Circumstances Confine Your Calling


Deep inside the heart of every woman lies a passion and longing to do something beyond herself. It might be a burden for a people group or a specific cause. Maybe even a desire to communicate in creative ways through art, music, writing, or another outlet. It could even be a deep-seeded truth that you are desperate for people to know. Whatever it is, you feel the call to something bigger than yourself. You have a calling that your heart is itching to live out.

I love the way Rebekah Lyons describes calling. She says, 

“Calling is where your burdens and talents collide.”

Because we are all crafted so uniquely, our callings look different from each others—which is great! However, the problem arises when we compare ourselves to somebody else with a similar calling who has a platform & followers. We begin to believe that we are only able to live out our callings if we have arrived to the place they are. In other words, pursuing your calling is only possible in a specific place, in a certain time, with certain people and circumstances.

This mentality can morph our callings to seem impossible and even discouraging. Especially if you’re stuck behind a desk, buried in diapers, located in a small town, or even if you have a physical, financial or emotional incapability. Sad to say, our circumstances can snuff out our callings before we even step into them. That is–if we let them.


Calling Confinement

In a society that covets platforms, followers and microphones, it’s effortless to fall into the trap of believing that calling only takes place on a stage. Out of discouragement, we can abandon the very things we feel called to because our lives feel too “ordinary” and far-fetched from the picture we imagined for ourselves. As a result, we find ourselves being faithful to obsess over how we’re going to “get big” and unfaithful in the small opportunities God has placed right in front of us.

I fear we’ve equated calling with congregations, passion with people’s approval, and mission with mass followings.

The beautiful thing about calling is that it beckons us to step away from ourselves and leap into the life another. Calling pushes us to make our world better and bring God glory. Essentially, calling doesn’t revolve around us–it’s orchestrated by and FOR the Caller. When we confine our callings and fixate on how we think it “should” be, we miss all that it is meant to be.

Taking Your Calling Wherever You Go

Discouragement tends to heighten when we can’t find a full time vocation that lines up with what we feel called to. Instead of bringing our callings into our workplaces or homes, we leave them off in the distant future telling ourselves, “Someday, it will happen.”

Some seasons, we might get to live out our callings as a full time vocation. Other seasons, we might not. Does that mean that you can’t live out what you feel called to do? Absolutely not!

One of my dear friends sat across the table from me as we talked about the things that stirred our hearts. She asked me what I was passionate about, and I told her about my desire to encourage women and teach them about Jesus. In the same breath I told her, “But I can’t find a job where I can do that. Plus, I live in a small town.”

She lovingly responded: “Okay then. Tell me how you can make this happen outside of your job with the people right in front of you?”

Since our conversation that lovely afternoon, I’ve found myself asking God, “Okay, Lord. You wired these things inside of me and I want to live them out. Would you provide an opportunity for me to do this?” As sure as the dawn, He has. In the smallest, weirdest ways He has given me opportunities at church, at my desk-job, through this little space on the internet, and even in line at the grocery store to do what He’s called me to do. For He who calls is faithful.

Ask The Caller

I’m learning that following your calling is all about listening to the Caller and being faithful to the opportunities He places right in front of you—big or small. 

So friend, whether you’re a daydreamer behind a desk, a mom with a mission, a single gal with huge vision, or an empty nester with a dream in her heart—remember, the Caller knows your season better than anybody else. He  knows what He’s wired inside of you and knows the needs within your reach.

What does living out your calling look like for you? The best place to start is by asking Him. Start asking the Lord for opportunities. Say yes to the small things He puts in front of you. Be faithful with the season you’re in and ask Him to use it all for His glory.
You better believe He will!

“Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving.”
Colossians 3: 23-24



  1. Gwen King

    This was so good Kaitlin. Thank you for the reminder.

    26 . Aug . 2017
    • Kaitlin

      Thank you, Aunt Gwen! <3

      28 . Aug . 2017
  2. Emily Assell

    I so appreciate this! I once heard a quote (don’t ask me by whom:)) that stopped me and began to put my thoughts in line with our Father’s: “too often we don’t dream the dreams of God, because we get stuck at the “how.”” Thank you for sharing!

    30 . Aug . 2017
    • Kaitlin

      That’s such a good quote! And so true… His ways are SO different than ours, and He thinks of stuff we never could. Thanks for sharing that beautiful truth!

      30 . Aug . 2017
  3. Read. Cook. Devour.

    Man I love this so much! It speaks right to where I am right now. Thank you for sharing your wisdom on this. ♡

    30 . Aug . 2017
    • Kaitlin

      You and me BOTH! It’s been such a struggle in this season. Praying for you to continue being encouraged that what God is doing in this season of your life is ALL a part of a beautiful process.

      31 . Aug . 2017
  4. justcallmefriend

    Simply beautiful! Too often we women, and even men, put an attachment to our calling that God never meant to be attached to it. I have struggled so often with my calling and often need to be reminded who I am doing the calling for. I love how you put that “it’s orchestrated by and FOR the Caller”. Beautifully said!

    30 . Aug . 2017
    • Kaitlin

      Oh absolutely! It’s amazing how easy it is to develop an unhealthy attachment to something that God never intended. Thank you so much for your encouragement!

      31 . Aug . 2017
  5. joydekok

    I simply love this. Especially “Ask the Caller.” I do take the call with me because I don’t know how to separate myself from it which is a good thing most of the time. 🙂

    30 . Aug . 2017
    • Kaitlin

      That is so amazing that you take your calling with you wherever you go. I need to learn from you! 🙂 Thanks so much for stopping by!

      31 . Aug . 2017
  6. Rosanna@ExtraordinaryEverydayMom

    Thank you for sharing this today! I especially needed it. I’m a stay-at-home Mom who loves to “encourage and inspire women,” but often feel like there is no way that that could work to make a living from. This encourages me that maybe that’s actually okay. I love the part where you talk about just asking God to use me in our calling right here.

    31 . Aug . 2017
    • Kaitlin

      I know it can feel suffocating when you feel like you can’t live out your calling. Thank goodness God is beyond our walls and can do way beyond what we ask or think. I’m excited to see how He answers you! ❤️

      31 . Aug . 2017
  7. April Clevenger Boyer

    I just commented, and got an error message. But- I just wanted to add that it is easy to get lost in the doing! Thanks for your tips!

    09 . Oct . 2017
  8. Ashley

    Kaitlin, this post was SUCH a blessing to me! I am a single girl, in my second year of teaching 4th grade kiddos, and have been feeling very discouraged lately with what I feel like God has called me to do. I, like you, also feel like my calling is to encourage women and point them back to Jesus, and I’ve been striving to do that for the past 2 years through my Youtube channel. However, comparison always creeps in. Ministry through social media is what I feel called to do, but it’s so easy to get discouraged and think that what you’re doing doesn’t really matter if you don’t have a lot of followers. But it DOES! I’ve been contemplating throwing in the towel with youtube, but this post really encouraged me at the perfect time. I am so glad that Pinterest led me to this post and to your blog!

    13 . Dec . 2017
    • Kaitlin

      Aww Ashley, that makes me so happy! Gosh, I understand the temptation to throw in the towel because internet ministry is HARD and it can seem totally ineffective when the numbers around there. Keep being faithful with your YouTube channel! That’s the wonderful thing about the internet, you never know WHO you will reach and when! Just like this post! 😂😂 Haha! Well I’m so glad this crossed your path at the right time, praying that you get the boost of encouragement you need to keep going!!

      13 . Dec . 2017

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